Ironically we all know better than to judge a book by it’s cover; however in reality many people find it hard to obey.
First impressions suck. They suck big time. If you’re never going to see that person again, you’ll always be remembered by that one encounter (you’ll be lucky if it went so great, or that the memory is long forgotten by now owing to a wondrous miracle). However, if you are due to meet that person again in life someday, it can be awkward when the more they get to know you, the more different you are appearing to be. By different and appearing I mean how you’re showing the real you.
Personally when you meet me in real life whoever you are, whatever the occasion, you will be presented with a quiet, timid, girl who is reluctant to make the first move. Once you get past that, well what can I say, welcome to the crazy real me!
In all seriousness I think it works to our advantages if you’re shy like me. People accept that you used to be reserved and quiet because you were shy. However, if your first expression was overly bubbly, confident, incredibly polite and so on, when you begin to show your real identity to people, they stop to think, hang on, is that still the same person I met x number of days ago.
But whatever the impression you have given off, we still have our chance to edit it in the next encounter. And if people question your sudden alteration in personality, just explain how your nerves got better of you, or you were trying so hard to impress, you didn’t pause to think it wasn’t really you there. If you’re (un)lucky enough to never see them again, bravo, think of it as a learning curve.
What is (was) your first impression of me?